Sunday, August 17, 2025

Key Insights for A Thriving Relationship



The Wedding Ring: the wedding ring signifies you have covenanted yourself into an eternal commitment. In marriage there are unbearable moments that tends to tear apart the relationship, but it is best to understand that it is a stage of the journey in the life a couple, a difficult challenge that they must face head-on in their capacity to own it back – remember you cannot quit when you haven’t tested a fight.

Communication Knits It: Communication is a two-way process of reaching a mutual understanding in which participants not only exchange words and information but should become a reflex of the hearts. Listen deeply and share openly to strengthen your bond.

Power of Words: Words can build and can also destroy, avoid negative remarks to your spouse. It is better to hold your tongue than regret hasty words. “Be swift to hear and slow to wrath” – James 1:19.

Resilience in Tough Times: There will be moments when giving-up is easier than standing, and giving in looks more attractive than persevering. in those moments, character may be the only thing you have to draw on to keep you moving.

Loving Imperfection: You don’t love people because they are perfect; you love them despite their flaws. True love embraces imperfection and sees beauty in the reality of who they are.

Authenticity in Love: It’s hard to show love if it’s not genuine within you. Be true to yourself, better to be disliked for who you are than loved for a facade you can’t maintain. Judging vs. Loving: If you judge people you will have no time to love them, for there is never a time or place for true love, it happens unexpectedly, in a heartbeat, and transforms your perspective. True love doesn’t wait for the perfect moment.

Foundation as Friendship: Keep avoiding saying negative words to your spouse, because an unhappy marriage often stems not from a lack of love but from a lack of friendship. Negative words erode connection. Nurture companionship to keep your bond strong.

Love as Action: Love is the act of will and not the feeling expressed by experience; You must deny yourself and find a way to meet your partner’s needs and not making your own things subject of the formula, this will make your partner feel proud of you and to adore at all times. Remember love is not only expressed words but also actions, showing your love through your actions will give your spouse a gift that speaks louder than words not just something for buying sake but something of value.

Tolerating Challenges: when it is time to do hard assignments, remember to tolerate every harsh feed-backs owning to the fact that none of us is used to the shades life throws at us, so in such case we have to bend to blend into your shared journey.

Patient Pursuit of Love: When trying to win a woman’s heart you have to study her gradually and patiently like trying to attain a degree in the university, studying here, is more of showing love and care- no matter how annoying you feel about her attitudes, just keep ignoring it all and keep showing love and care. That desire in your heart will come to fruition and you would build a deeper connection.

Sacrifice for the Honey: Sweet marriages demands big sacrifices, you don’t have to allow your emotions to rule you, and you have to fight it till it works. A thriving marriage demands significant sacrifices. Don’t let emotions control you; fight for your relationship with determination until it flourishes.

Anger Destroys, Love Builds: Anger does not build, it destroys. Love does not wait for reward, remember God loved us when we rejected Him, turned our backs against Him, yet He sent His Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. Anger tears down, but love endures without expecting reward.

Forgiveness as Strength: Holding onto grudges poisons a marriage. Practice forgiveness, not because your spouse deserves it, but because it frees you both to grow. Forgiveness is a gift that heals and strengthens your bond.

Growing Together: A thriving relationship requires both partners to grow individually and together. Encourage each other’s dreams, celebrate small victories, and commit to learning and evolving as a couple.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things – 1 Corinthians 13:7



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Monday, July 7, 2025

Truth is NOT Relative, It Is Absolute – John 14:6


"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"

(John 14:6).

In this verse we confirm Jesus' identity as the Truth. He is the only way to the Father, and His truth is the foundation of our relationship with God.

We must have heard the statement:  “Jesus is not simply the embodiment of truth; He is the Truth. Sure, that is a statement of fact about Truth, because, Truth is not a perception, idea, concept or a word construct. The Bible tells us it is a Person” The statement emphasizes that Jesus is not just a depiction or embodiment of truth, but He is the very essence and personification of Truth itself. This means that Truth is not just a philosophical concept, a moral code, or a set of principles, but a living, breathing Person.

JESUS is the light of the world (John 8:12) that illuminates our minds to see clearly the Truth as against the lies and falsehood of Satan and his deceptive antics. C.S Lewis once stated “I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen, not only because I see it but because by it I see everything else.” - “A Mind Awake: An Anthology of C. S. Lewis”, p.229, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

It is in Jesus, the Truth and the Light, that we are able to apply the right judgement, the right reasoning pattern, and the power of discerning what the truth is, from the false. We gain the knowledge to interpret the situations, circumstances, events and happenings that evolves around our world, placing them on the actuality of truth.

Jesus is the Truth, when we abide in Jesus (John 15:4) and He in us we gain the WORD by the Spirit of truth aligning us to the right perspective and right reasoning as it is applicable to the world around us. It is in the seeking of our Lord Jesus Christ that we become a people of truth, then, as we remain intentional and consistent in faithfulness to God through our devotional life, it becomes difficult to fall for falsehood or become an advocate of misconstrued truth, lies and deceptive antics of the enemy.

We ought to be aware that our world today is polarized, people with their knowledge and philosophies have broken up into divergent factions and groups, opposing the absoluteness of Truth, making their standpoint and predicates that truth is subjective- whereas truth is absolute because Truth is Jesus Christ.

Dictionary meaning of truth: (Merriam Webster Dictionary)

       I.            Truth is actuality of things, events and fact.

    II.            Truth is the state of being the case.

 III.            Truth is a judgement, proposition or Idea that is true or accepted as true.

 IV.            Truth is sincerity in action, character and utterance.

    V.            Truth is being in accordance with fact.

The Convergence – Truth and truth

However, in the context of this piece, these can be perceived as fragments and reflections of the transcendence of ultimate spiritual reality of the moral verity, revealed of Jesus in the Scriptures. In essence, to be positioned in the frame of mind that believes unwaveringly and accepts ‘truth as the sincerity in action, character and utterance’ amidst the falsehood, lies, aberrance or deviance that our world is utterly saturated, that mind must have been revealed of the absolute Truth from the scriptures.

As Jesus Himself, said: - "Sanctify them by the Truth; Your Word is Truth" (John 17:17).

Here, Jesus prayed that His followers would be sanctified (set apart) by the truth of God's Word. We should bear Truth as part of our character traits, upholding God's Word as the ultimate standard of truth.

In summary:

"The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14).

Here, our attention is called to the fact that Jesus is the Word of God; He is the personification of Truth. He came from the Father, full of grace and truth, and His presence among us reveals the glory of God.

Finally, the statement "Jesus is not simply the embodiment of truth; He is the Truth" reflects the biblical understanding that Jesus is the personification of truth, the ultimate standard of truth, and the only way to the Father.

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Tuesday, June 10, 2025

In the Spousal Case - The Waiting on God

Abraham listened to his wife for a child she thought would be the promised child (Genesis 16: 2-4) and that became a disaster and an act of sin which God hates, as a result, could be consequential upon Abraham's prolonged years of the promised child coming to fruition. Yes, the Bible doesn’t explicitly state it was due to the conjugal union between Abraham and Hagar, but taking into account Paul’s contrast of Ishmael and Isaac in Galatians 4:23, hints that the attempts to hasten (indulgence of ungodly or sinful practices- not approved by God) God’s plan can complicate and elongate the waiting journey.

Adam was given instructions on the tree to eat from (Genesis 2:16-17) and his wife Eve, who was equally and fully aware of these instructions (Genesis 3:2-3), disobeyed and lured Adam to the sin of disobedience. Theirs was more devastating than Abraham's, because they lost the glory of God and eviction from the beloved Garden of Eden, their cherished home.

While waiting on God we must know that the devil will/can always break in through our minds and other willing avenues, for the married, the easiest and most accessible means being their spouses, with the sole aim of making us do what God will not approve of, so as to distant us from Him by the way of sin, and this will keep us far from God's favour in our lives.

In the case of Spouse, husbands are the head of the family and should guide the spirituality of their wives tenaciously so that they can both be uninterruptedly faithful to God otherwise, our enemy- the devil, will penetrate through the spiritually weak one.  Apart from spirituality, you should watch her lifestyle too, because Eve wandered away far from Adam and met the serpent- the devil and succumbed to his bidding, if she was at a close range, at least Adam would have heard her voice and asked, "Dear, who are you talking with"? Sometimes, we get blinded by love or the ideology of “Oh’ my wife is my better half”, and then we lose guard on watching or taking charge of certain areas of their lives. This journey of waiting on the LORD is the hardest I can see in the journey of Christianity.

My point is that you may be wondering why there seems to be delay to your prayers and why God is silent on you? Whereas your lifestyle or that of your spouse is the reason God is holding back, giving you an opportunity to return to him in repentance. Sometimes, despite our seemly perfect and sinless Christian life of continuous obedience to God in a consistent devotional life, unwavering faith and intentional flee from all appearance of evil; answers to our prayers can unknowingly be delayed by spiritual forces. Such forces and unique issues can be likened to "Prince of Persia" (the special forces of evil- See Daniel 10:13). These are words that connote the presence of demonic forces withholding in the spiritual realms our breakthrough and answers to our prayers. Daniel prayed and called on God, unknown to him that forces were at work, as revealed by angel Gabriel. (Daniel 10:13).

Now, this may be your case, your prince of Persia could be unforgiveness, adultery, malice, anger, hatred, hostility, wife-battery, husband-battery, divination (consulting mediums), spiritual harlotry (visiting different religious houses), spiritual apathy (lackadaisical attitude towards worship) etc. Living above this, calls for special spiritual reinforcement and an intentional Christian lifestyle, both individual and collectively as a household. We have Special Forces of demonic agents on special assignments (Ephesians 6:12) to pull down families and individuals who are born to do exploit for God. This is an undeniable reality, and if you choose to deny, think again. Don't see yourself as every other church member who testifies of how God delivered them from nightmares. NO! Yours could be an age long spiritual attacks, needing a different course of action, to pray and live, breaking walls of demonic, barriers, and obstacles in our lives and in the life of our families. This comes with a concerted effort of intentional life of righteousness and connectedness with Jesus Christ, with total obedience and trust to the source of power (Jesus) above all forces of evil. Ephesians 6:10-13 “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.”

It is my prayer that God, in His infinite Mercy, Power and Grace, will surely win our battles and take all the glory. Amen.

 

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